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IS flying to see him a good idea?
My long-lost love EX BF & I have became re-aquanted, and (PLS READ OPEN QUESTION) Just split from his current girl he was "seeing" for 4weeks. Due to the fact that when they are fighting, he thinks of me, and now that we have started talking again, the old feelings are coming back. We talk almost ALL day, online and on the phone. He really wants me to come see him, in INDIANA, but he lives in SanDiego, he is there for a business deal, as he travels a lot for work. Should I go see him there? I REALLY want to, and I DO feel like this could be MY happily ever after. What does everyone think? Am I being just crazy, he is a VERY honest person. And he tells me he cares for me, and never stopped. But, due to the fact that he moved to the mainland, and Im in Hawaii. It didnt make sense. WE understand each other better than anyone else does in the world. Could this be REAL? Am I a fool to want to go see him? And him want me to? IS this a good way to start our relationship up again?
He is willing to pay for the ticket, and the only reason we are going to see each other in INDIANA instead of SAN DIEGO, is because we JUST started to talk New Years Eve, and he had to drive to Indiana for work the next day… But he will be there for 2 months, and Too much time has gone by, and I really want to see him, as he does to me too.
IF things work out this time, I will move from Hawaii to San Diego to help him be successful with him business…. And be there with him, since he has a life set up there already, its easier for me to move there, before I didnt want to go…
I think if you feel like your feelings are this strong and that you trust his word, then go for it. If you want it to be longterm though, you need to consider why you guys broke up in the first place and if you are now in a situation to move past those problems. If the problem was simply because of the distance, how are you going to resolve that now since you are still living in two different places? You don’t want to be flying back and forth to see each other for a weekend once in a while do you? That probably won’t go very far. If both of you are serious about getting back together, I don’t see a problem with starting it off just meeting for a few days in IN, because at least then you can see if that spark you see/feel through the phone/internet is real and lasts in person. If there is potential, you NEED to take that time to discuss the long term. If you can come to a solution regarding the distance and any other problems you might have faced, then you are off to a great start. Having strong feelings for each other is definitely a plus, but it isn’t all you will need if you want to last. Good luck.
33 Responses to “IS flying to see him a good idea?”
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September 26th, 2009 at 5:57 pm
huh? wat
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September 26th, 2009 at 6:13 pm
No its a scam dawg
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September 26th, 2009 at 6:33 pm
If its in your heart saying yes then go if your brain is saying no still go go with your heart
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September 26th, 2009 at 7:12 pm
you are a fool move on
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September 26th, 2009 at 8:00 pm
Sure if you think he’s changed… i mean you broke up for a reason.
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September 26th, 2009 at 8:12 pm
this could start ur relationship again. remember to keep your guard up because he’s on the rebound.
have fun! go for it! i’d do the same thing if i was you.
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September 26th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
don’t fly from hawaii to indiana. that’s way too far.
on the other hand. if it’s something that money is no issue, than definitely go for it.
but if this is like your one trip for the year, than no way.
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September 26th, 2009 at 9:10 pm
long distance relationships don’t work. period.
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September 26th, 2009 at 9:38 pm
if u r goin to see him do it in sandieago not indiana to make sure hes not lieing
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September 26th, 2009 at 9:53 pm
How long lost? Is this practical or wishful thinking? I would see him, but keep your head steady girl.
Why not San Diego – that makes me wonder…???
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September 26th, 2009 at 10:03 pm
Go and see what happens.
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September 26th, 2009 at 10:31 pm
ima say no because if u go and see him then he will always want you to come and see him and I would bet he would not do the same for you..
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September 26th, 2009 at 11:18 pm
if he pays go if you have to i dont think it is wrth it
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September 26th, 2009 at 11:46 pm
unless the reason you broke up was somtin more than moving yes
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September 26th, 2009 at 11:57 pm
I think if you feel like your feelings are this strong and that you trust his word, then go for it. If you want it to be longterm though, you need to consider why you guys broke up in the first place and if you are now in a situation to move past those problems. If the problem was simply because of the distance, how are you going to resolve that now since you are still living in two different places? You don’t want to be flying back and forth to see each other for a weekend once in a while do you? That probably won’t go very far. If both of you are serious about getting back together, I don’t see a problem with starting it off just meeting for a few days in IN, because at least then you can see if that spark you see/feel through the phone/internet is real and lasts in person. If there is potential, you NEED to take that time to discuss the long term. If you can come to a solution regarding the distance and any other problems you might have faced, then you are off to a great start. Having strong feelings for each other is definitely a plus, but it isn’t all you will need if you want to last. Good luck.
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September 27th, 2009 at 12:27 am
Ask him to buy your flight ticket. If he really wants to see you, he will. If he won’t, I’d move on.
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September 27th, 2009 at 12:59 am
Confusing, but I would wait tell he was at home because maybe his honesty is just a booty call.
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September 27th, 2009 at 1:07 am
i would seriously go see him.. that is sooo sweet.. i think he would love it if you flew jus to see him and only him.
so get to and book a plane ticket!
Have fun!
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September 27th, 2009 at 1:24 am
Unless you go you will never know for sure. However it is a gamble. You could find that he is the love of your life or that the whole relationship is not what you thought it was and be disappointed. It is better to be disappointed now, then possibly divorced later on. Follow your heart and best of luck.
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September 27th, 2009 at 2:02 am
well you could chance it and see how it works out….or you could continue/start up a longdistance relationship and pick on day a month for one of you to fly up/down to see eachother or at anytime of your choice.
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September 27th, 2009 at 2:36 am
Well will he be willing to pay half or more of the plane ticket cost…..? Just don’t go having the highest hopes. And communicate more too with him. What were the problems that broke you both up the last time? Because it may become between you again. Just don’t go over with only rose coloured glasses on….
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September 27th, 2009 at 3:10 am
screw indiana, have him come see you in hawaii.
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September 27th, 2009 at 3:53 am
Sounds very familiar to me, had the same Problem, just my G/F was in Germany and I was based in the USA, after visiting her in Germany and she visiting me in the US, I have decided to move back to Germany and I need to tell you, NO REGRETS.
Go for it.
Good Luck
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September 27th, 2009 at 4:02 am
Sure – if you don’t mind being USED by a horny prick who would be willing to CHEAT on his CURRENT girlfriend…
And don’t forget all the drama that comes with it – remember, he’s an EX for a REASON
;):):);)
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You say "he is a VERY honest person" – yet he is LYING and SNEAKING AROUND with YOU behind his girlfriends back?!?!?!?!?
Edit: "Fighting" still implies that they are TOGETHER – "Dumped her @$$" does NOT!!
September 27th, 2009 at 4:25 am
I think it would be fine to go and see him but wait until he gets back to SD. Give it some time and make sure it’s what you both want and he’s not rebounding.
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September 27th, 2009 at 4:57 am
well if you want to be with him be with him! we cant answer that question for you. I could tell you what I would do. If i loved the person and i thought that they were the one i would do whatever it took to be with that person. Follow your heart and the rest will fall in place
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September 27th, 2009 at 5:39 am
What was the original reason that you broke up? Think about that before you decide to put yourself back in the same situation. We all want our Happily Ever After, but we can’t force it.
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September 27th, 2009 at 6:03 am
If he really wants to see you then he will come see you or he’ll pay for you to come see him. I would take my time because there is a reason that you two stop talking in the first place. You need to look at that before you go running into this relationship.
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September 27th, 2009 at 6:41 am
No, don’t go. He’s just looking for easy sex in Indiana, and wants to see what you’ll sacrifice to be with him. HE left Hawaii, not you. Is he offering to pay for your ticket? Even so, I would be cautious. You’re going to be stuck in a hotel room while he’s in meetings. Why would he want to see you in IN instead of CA, which is a shorter flight? It’s probably because he doesn’t want to incorporate you into his new life and meet his new friends. Invite him to see you and make him pay the ticket. Or he can pay for you to go to SD, where you can meet his friends.
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September 27th, 2009 at 7:31 am
I don’t like the sound of it. If he thinks of you when fighting with his current girlfriend, the same could happen again if you ever fought with him. Only you can know what’s right in this situation, look back at the reasons you broke up in the first place and address these reasons.
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September 27th, 2009 at 8:04 am
Hi,
This guy seems to need a cuddle mate while he is on a trip.Please remember that guys think differently than us girls.It would be a good idea to question his motives for wanting you there.Ask him.More than likely he will tell you what you want to hear,but once you are there with him,he is likely to disappoint you.we all have free will,but the best option is to gaurd your heart.And no,your not crazy,just a girl in love and remember also,that he is not the first and definately wont be the last!!
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September 27th, 2009 at 8:22 am
I can’t believe how naive so many of you women are. Listen to the guys here, darlin’ WE know what’s goin’ down. If he gives a whit about you, he will move heaven and earth to come see YOU. That will tell you all you need to know. If you go to him, he’ll think you are weak and desperate. After all, He is the one that moved and left YOU behind when he went to the mainland. Besides, he wants you in Indiana because his G/F is in San Diego!
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September 27th, 2009 at 8:37 am
I say go this will help you feel out the situation watch his calls with her to see if it is more than what he is telling you. Enjoy your self don’t miss out on something that may be good for you.
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